Girl Code: Needs

Yes we're talking about the kind of needs that mostly everyone (with some exceptions) need in their life; sex. Now to begin with a disclaimer for this blog entry, I'm not saying that everyone has to have sex. But if your boyfriend/girlfriend is becoming increasingly uncomfortable and pulling away because needs aren't being met and you just aren't ready, it's time to have a serious discussion or cut the cord because you may not be compatible.

Sex is normal in nature and in humans. It's not this huge taboo thing like some people make it out to be. It's also not how to run your life. But the thing is, sex is good. And in a relationship, like anything else, sexual chemistry is important. It simply has to be there. That's when it comes to balances. Everything needs to be balanced.

What I'm trying to say is that your sex drive should probably closely match your partner's or at least discuss why it may not be and how things could be worked out for both people. Example: A couple where the girl is a virgin, guy is not. Girl just isn't comfortable with her sexuality at all. She'll flirt and tease, but never actually go with it. Guy, on the other hand, is craving. He's had a friends with benefits in the past. But after months without anything, life is tough. They begin clashing because she doesn't get why he needs it and he feels backed in a corner because although he likes the girl, she just isn't right for him. Sexual chemistry.

Even with some really good relationships, things break down because of a lack of sexual chemistry. It's not even just the chemistry sometimes. Good marriages break down because they stop having sex. It's a time to connect with your partner. If there's issues, the couple needs to talk about it.

Don't repress feelings just because you're scared what the other may say or think. It's important to speak up and say "I'm unhappy because we're not having sex." Discuss why that's occurring and figure out what page both of you are on. Sometimes, an agreement can't be reached and that's when it's time to maybe split and find a way to be satisfied elsewhere. In another relationship with an sexual balance will probably be more fulfilling. Who knows? You just need to talk. Don't make sexual problems more taboo to talk about in our culture than it already is.