When you tell most people homewrecking, they define it as trying to get with someone else's boyfriend/girlfriend. Usually, it's just straight going after the person you're hitting on. However, while watching MTV's Awkward, I saw a new type of homewrecking.
There is such a thing as homewrecking by spending too much time around a couple. It's a thing.
Think about it. The homewrecker spends enough time with the couple that their relationship is stifled. It's ruined because they didn't get enough personal time away from the homewrecker. As in the example in Awkward, the couple felt pity for the guy and let him third wheel. When truthfully, he was trying to tear them apart.
Personally, I wouldn't have thought this was a thing. It's not the immediate form of homewrecking you think about. It's another addition for the girl code. Leave people be. Understand when you've overstayed your welcome and when you've started taking advantage of a couple. Go get your own guy. Go hang out with other friends. Have your own identity. Living vicariously through a couple is just not ok. A couple is defined as two, not three. Your friends and the couple will respect you a lot more for it and will appreciate it. If you're really their friend, you'll leave them be and let them be happy. There does come a time when you need to accept that they're happy together and you are the one that needs to move on.
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